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The Blind Side

June 20, 2017

Today I sat on the cold floor of our room, in the corner, watching my infant sleep in his crib, going back and forth between him and my small little iPhone, I watched the movie “The Blind Side”.

I remember seeing the preview for this movie and I remember thinking to myself how an obvious, touching movie this would be. It would probably just be one of those movies where a white, rich and smart woman helps out a poor black boy. Well, I thought wrong. This movie opened my mind, it opened my thoughts and made me think.

This woman opened doors for this young man, took him in (in her house literally) and changed his life. She became his legal guardian, basically adopted him and made sure he got a chance in everything a young person deserved. A chance in things most kids take granted. Education, a home, a family. LOVE.

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As I watched the ending credit for this movie, I thought to myself..

What can I do for my children?

What door can I open for my children?

Am I a good parent?

Am I a good person?

Am I doing the right thing?

So many questions came up on my mind, I asked myself so many questions but couldn’t answer one of them. Not a single question. I couldn’t answer a single question. It was like I was taken into “zone out mode” and just kept asking these questions to myself that I couldn’t even answer.

I have been thinking Josh a lot lately. He’s changed. Like all kids, he’s changed since going to kindergarten in Korea. AND I HATE IT. I hate how he talks and acts. Why? Korean kids have this tone of voice that they ALL DO. Josh was doing it. He sang like all the other kids, he talked like all the other kids and he was turning into… well.. this kid that seemed so… NOT MY JOSH. The innocent, sweet and charming child that was always so bright and charming was changing into .. well.. just one of those other Korean kids that always asked weird questions, talked in the bit rude tone of voice and was getting very annoying. It was like I had some control over Josh in Singapore but now in Korea I didn’t. It was like.. I don’t know he just seemed so distant. It was as if I had no control over him. Not that I’m trying to make him into anything but my thoughts and standards are still pretty firm.

As I had Josh and as hi turned one, I promised myself that I would 1. always be there for my child not matter what, 2. make sure they live in a good, clean environment and 3. always be loved.

No this list is getting longer. I feel like I have number 4 and the numbers keep rising. I want them to be able to run around freely, I want them to be able to choose what they want to do and how to do it. I want them to be able to live freely and have the brains to choose wisely. I want them to have a good education and I want them to be able to enjoy life.

While watching this movie, I found myself thinking…

“what in the world am I doing to make sure this so called list is achieved?”

This woman was already successful, she had a great house, a GREAT outfit and lived the ideal successful life. She already had everything to be able to PROVIDE to others. Not that this movie was about her and her success but it made me think AGAIN, do I have to make lots of money to be able to give my children those same options? Do I have to be successful and have a “place” in life where my voice will be heard and noticed?

Hmm…

As I sat on the floor and watched this movie on my iPhone, all these things came up in my mind and I could only come up with one conclusion.

GOD.

Money could probably help my kids, a title on a slick business card could probably help my kids but it all came down to that one word, GOD.

People say the phrase “Good lord, help me. Oh my God please (blah blah blah)” so I decided to rely on my God and pray for my kids. Pray for them and pray for me. So that I could hear God’s voice when he talks to me and make sure that I take his lead. Make sure I listen to him and be careful not to drive my kids crazy. Cause I know in some situations I’m going to have conflict and want to make them into something I want them to be, not what they want to be.

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The Baby stuff I use

June 15, 2017

One of the difficult things about raising a child (other than being sleep deprived for the first year and mentally going crazy) is picking which item to use for your precious little one. It was hard for me when I had Josh because I was in Korea, I had no idea what to buy, no idea what I needed and didn’t have a friend to ask. So I had to my own research and find out on my own.

With Tyler being born, I knew exactly what worked, what I needed and how much of the items I needed to buy.

So I decided to do a post on these “BABY STUFF” that worked for me and my children.

This may not work for you and your child but it’s a list that I’d like to share for all moms.

Thermometer.

I use the forehead thermometer from BRAUN and the in ear one from the inexpensive PORORO brand. BRAUN thermometers are really expensive. I got this one in Singapore for about 80 dollars.

However, I like to have at least two in the house so that I have a second opinion. Sometimes the temperature comes out weird and I have to measure it four or five times. For those times, I keep an extra thermometer so that I know exactly what range I’m looking at.

The Pororo brand from Korea is around then bucks and works as an ear thermometer and a forehead thermometer. It works great!

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“Really Really”

June 12, 2017

I used to love to listen to K-Pop. It was like one of those things that I just HAD TO DO. As if it was something I was obligated to do I would download the top 100 songs every week, and listen to every single song. I would look up the lyrics and memorize each song.

No one told me to do this, no one pressured me to memorize the songs but I did it.

To keep up with the “new generation”. I didn’t want to be the girl who didn’t know any of the songs.

I wanted to be the girl who sang many many popular songs at karaoke.

But as soon as I got married and had kids, that all just slipped away. It was just something stupid. It was a waste of time and it was meaningless to me.

But once in a while, when I would come across a song or two on the street I would want to download the songs and listen.

Usually, I listen to classical music, praise songs or just pop. But once in a while, I would hear a song on the street from one of the stores that are blasting the audio and download K-Pop songs to listen to. WINNER’s empty was one of them and now…

WINNER’s REALL REALLY is another one of the songs that have made me click the download button and drag into my iTunes library.

I guess WINNER is a K-Pop group that’s on the top of my list.

Josh&Andrea&Tyler Seoul, South Korea

Tyler and the fam

June 2, 2017

During the first two weeks after Tyler was born, I breastfed him with formula (Aptamil). I would get him to latch on and have a good 15minutes on each side, then feed him about 40ml to 60ml of formula. He would sometimes gulp down the 60ml and sometimes get about 40ml. During the first two weeks, I was able to find a breast milk massage therapist to help me with the latching and get my milk supply going. I was able to pump out about 30ml of breastmilk (both sides added up was about 30ml) after the first massage, then about 100ml after the second. In Korea, there are many breast massage shops for breastfeeding moms or for moms who are wanting to wean without pain.

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Josh&Andrea&Tyler Seoul, South Korea

Our Baby #3, Tyler

May 24, 2017

2017/05/09 11:06 am 3.48kg Tyler Lee (40 weeks 3 days)

After a long wait, Tyler finally arrived on the day all Koreans went out to vote for the new President. My contractions started at 5:30am. I felt like I really had to go to the hospital around 8:30am so I took a shower, ate breakfast and headed to the hospital around 9:10am.

When we arrived, a “family delivery room” was available so Kaden and I went into that room. In Korea, there are different kinds of deliveries and the most common is the one where they ask the husband to step outside during the actual delivery and then come back in for the cutting of the umbilical cord. The “family delivery” is like the normal delivery of North America where the husband just stays through the whole delivery process.

When I arrived and changed, got the monitors hooked on me, it was about 9:40am and for some reason, my contractions weren’t getting stronger while lying on the bed. So the nurse gave me a yoga ball to sit and bounce on for a while. I sat on it for about 40 minutes and the contractions got really strong. I felt like I was going to go to Hell’s gate and give Satan a high five, and that’s when I knew it was time. I asked Kaden to call the nurse, she came in and said it was time so another nurse brought in a table and clothes, then they called my doctor. Two, three pushes later, Tyler was on my belly, Kaden was cutting the umbilical cord and I could hear Tyler crying, loud and clear.

It’s amazing how painful “giving birth” is but more amazing how you forget that pain as soon as you see this. This little amazing little breath of LIFE.

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Josh&Andrea&Tyler Seoul, South Korea

DIY Thomas and Friends Costume | 토마스 기차 의상 만들기

April 24, 2017

This Friday, Josh has an event at his kindergarten called “Imaginary Day”.

Kids are supposed to imagine a character they want to be and become that character for one day. In order to be that character, parents were sent a message from the kindergarten to take some time to MAKE their costumes (if possible) or purchase a costume and have the kids wear it to the school.

Of course Josh chose Thomas and Kaden and I did some research.

We found http://littleredwindow.com/2013/10/diy-thomas-the-train-halloween-costume.html and decided to start making our own version of this costume.

I am almost at my due date so I pretty much helped with the research only and Kaden did everything on his own. From going out to get the supplies and making the box, putting the little parts together, painting the boxes and to gluing everything together. Kaden did EVERYTHING.

I told him he should have chose Fine Arts as his major in university.

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